tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35324441.post6797877131807470112..comments2023-10-23T08:28:44.881-06:00Comments on Splinters of Silver: Considerable Questions BEFORE Saying I DOSplinters of Silverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02899357787697070658noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35324441.post-85118643400115160422008-03-31T11:37:00.000-06:002008-03-31T11:37:00.000-06:00"After all, religious people have higher divorce r..."After all, religious people have higher divorce rates than no religious ones."<BR/><BR/>Could you show me some documentation for this conclusion?<BR/><BR/>Also it sure would be nice to total the number of couples living in sin (i.e. fornication, a sexual relationship outside of marriage), which is possibly behind your reasoning that religious marriages have a higher divorce rate, since a breakup of these non-married couples wouldn't count in your conclusions.<BR/><BR/>At any rate, my post deals with causing people to ponder the thoughts of commitment BEFORE marriage, not during (though could be), or sadly incase of divorce.<BR/><BR/>And, in all fairness, being religious or secular does not make one a better or worse marriage conselor in and of itself.<BR/><BR/>TimSplinters of Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02899357787697070658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35324441.post-53460201619768996432008-03-31T08:41:00.000-06:002008-03-31T08:41:00.000-06:00I think there are secular marriage counselors who ...I think there are secular marriage counselors who do a better job than religious counselors.<BR/><BR/>After all, religious people have higher divorce rates than no religious ones.<BR/><BR/>BeastBEAST FCDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05679628160308289045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35324441.post-53582503107900160292008-03-30T21:53:00.000-06:002008-03-30T21:53:00.000-06:00Beast,First, if you would read my post, you would ...Beast,<BR/><BR/>First, if you would read my post, you would notice it covers things that even non-Christians should consider before making a commitment that should last forever.<BR/><BR/>Second, asking if I am a marriage counselor means nothing, for anyone that is or has been married can share what they found to be beneficial to the marriage and what has hurt the marriage.<BR/><BR/>The idea is to help those who have not been married to avoid the pitfalls and failings of others, so prayerfully they will have a happier, healthier, and longer marriage than the majority of persons today.<BR/><BR/>-----------------------<BR/><BR/>Travis,<BR/><BR/>Very good points! Thanks!Splinters of Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02899357787697070658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35324441.post-41693465195968388292008-03-30T11:44:00.000-06:002008-03-30T11:44:00.000-06:00When I was on the verge of getting married my past...When I was on the verge of getting married my pastor preformed the marriage counseling. The very first question he asked was....<BR/>"What will you do if this does not workout?"<BR/>Now it seems like a simple question but it has a meaning to it that tell you if should consider not getting married. If you have a plan laid out for what to do if you get divorced then rethink the whole thing. This question tells two things....<BR/>1. Are you serious about this relationship and the commitment it will take to push through whatever happens?<BR/><BR/>2. Are you going to be fickle with your spouse?<BR/><BR/>If you have a plan set up to move on without this person you are probably opening the door for divorce. It is a serious commitment that had less to with love then Oprah would have you believe.Travis Foulkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10915213235888132724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35324441.post-42367994205116624812008-03-30T07:02:00.000-06:002008-03-30T07:02:00.000-06:00So now you are a marriage counselor?Marriage, as i...So now you are a marriage counselor?<BR/><BR/>Marriage, as it happens, is a tripartite contract that has nothing to do with God.<BR/><BR/>BeastBEAST FCDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05679628160308289045noreply@blogger.com