C.H. Spurgeon

Sinners, let me address you with words of life; Jesus wants nothing from you, nothing whatsoever, nothing done, nothing felt; he gives both work and feeling. Ragged, penniless, just as you are, lost, forsaken, desolate, with no good feelings, and no good hopes, still Jesus comes to you, and in these words of pity he addresses you, "Him that cometh unto me I will in no wise cast out."

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Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Trying Marriage On For Size, and Canceling at Any Time

“"I think marriage is the new dating and having kids is the new marriage," she proclaims loudly, as yet another woman dining with her partner turns to stare. "It's true. I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think I could get out of it."”

A woman, named Andi in the article, somewhat seems to gloat about how she decided to get married at 27, and decided to get a divorce at 28. She decided, “Within months of promising to love and honor and cherish Tucker forever, she knew she had made a huge mistake. The problem? He was boring.” I can’t help but wonder if Tucker actually changed, or was it merely Andi that despised the ‘C’ word: commitment. As the writer notes, “I know there have been days in my own five-year marriage when I've dreamed of reclaiming my freedom.” “Reclaiming my freedom”, is pure selfishness, in direct conflict with what your commitment to God, your vows, your husband, and your family stands for.

Given statistics: “While newly-marrieds everywhere fear the one-in-two-marriages-fail statistic, the more relevant stat is that while the median age at which a woman first marries is 25, the median age at which she first divorces is 29. In fact, 20 percent of marriages fail within five years, and of those, one in four end within two years. So much for until death do us part.”

Given reasons: “Of course, our generation can afford to chuck the Cinderella story when the glass slipper doesn't fit. While our grandmothers were forced to remain shackled to unhappy unions for monetary reasons, most women today have the financial wherewithal to cry uncle and bolt whenever we get uncomfortable.”

Given ideas: “Pamela Paul, author of the book The Starter Marriage, who herself was divorced less than a year after taking her vows at age 27. "Ours is an H&M culture, where you go out and buy 10 cheap items for the season, then toss them, rather than investing in one beautiful coat you'll wear for another 10 seasons. More and more women have that throwaway mentality with their first marriage — the 'I want it now' attitude." Until, of course, you don't.”

This Andi, has apparently remarried. We ask why? Is this new guy, not boring? She notes, “Then she met David. He was supposed to be her rebound relationship. Three years later, she realized that she wanted to have kids with him — and that was the clincher.” So, are we to gather, that she will stay committed to this relationship? I guess there is no guarantee, in that she says, “"I'm happy, but I try not to think about it," she says. "It's like, if I thought I had to have my hair the same way for the rest of my life, I'd freak out."”

Commitment folks. If you don’t think you will be able to honor your commitment to God and your potential spouse, don’t make it. Maybe if we would adhere to more wisdom before dating and committing ourselves to a person (for marriage is “till death do you part”), and once we have freely done so, to earnestly contend to do that which is right, in the sight of God, we may not have so many Trying Marriage On For Size, and Canceling at Any Time.

With this lack of respect for the institution of marriage, given by God, even among professing Christians, I can’t help but wonder why homosexuals are fighting so hard to be a part of it.


BEAST FCD said...


The reason is so blatantly clear: The tripartite contract of marriage never had enough room for your non existent deity.

Splinters of Silver said...

You are correct. There is no room for God in their hearts, which leaves no room for God in their marriage.

BEAST FCD said...

Of course I am. God is non existent.

Splinters of Silver said...

God is non existent.

In relationship, not reality.

Travis Foulks said...

Very nice post there. I really enjoy my visits to your blog!

John Bunyan

To be saved is to be preserved in the faith to the end. 'He that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.' (Mt. 24:13) Not that perseverance is an accident in Christianity, or a thing performed by human industry; they that are saved 'are kept by the power of God, through faith unto salvation.' (1 Pet. 1: 3-6) But perseverance is absolutely necessary to the complete saving of the soul…. He that goeth to sea with a purpose to arrive at Spain, cannot arrive there if he be drowned by the way; wherefore perseverance is absolutely necessary to the saving of the soul.